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A Hint of Celebrity?

Now that Ken and I spruced up our home with a few pieces of new furniture, a washer and dryer, and new kitchen chairs, I decided it was time for a little Barbara upgrading. Yup. I spent some coins on myself, and I didn’t do it at the thrift store. 🙂

The items I wanted included a pair of new glasses, some wrinkle cream and skin spot remover, along with a couple pair of new sandals. (I still think we may have at least a couple of days of summer in the near future.)

On Saturday, I went to pick up my new specs. For once the sun was shining, but little did I know in a few seconds it would shine on me. When the receptionist requested my name, I replied, “Barbara McCloskey.”

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One of the customers turned around with a surprised look on her face and said, “Barbara McCloskey? I know that name. Sure, there’s somebody by that name who is an author.”

I replied, “That’s me!”

The customer’s voice went up an octave as she said, “No kidding?”

I whipped out my business cards I got for such opportunities and gave  one to each customer in the store.

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For a couple of seconds, I felt like a big shot. Fame shown it’s fickle light on me and I smiled in the illumination. Even though I hadn’t been facially recognized, somebody did recognize my name.

I’ve emblazoned this scene in my mind with the exception someday I will be facially recognized, and my “fan” will have read all of my books.

I truly believe this is the first step to fulfilling my dream–to become a successful author. This first step is simple, but necessary.

Here’s the bottom line to this tale. I don’t believe dreams happen. Having a clear vision of what we want to achieve is key, then we must share it with others. In the meantime, put your nose to the grindstone and work, work, work. In my case, I need to read and write everyday. Persistence is key–you can’t give up even when the ugly face of writer’s block crosses you path. Then grab opportunities when they come along. Do radio interviews. Get your name in the local paper. Pass out business cards advertising your genre and titles. Get your book reviewed. Don’t hide your light under a bushel basket — no one can shine hiding. Perhaps you might even get a little “luck” as you go through the actions of working toward your goals. No one can turn down good luck, right?

My only caution is to be careful what you ask for. . . there’s a good chance you will get it.

Goals, Plans, Expectations–Oh My!

climbing the ladderI think we humans are a curious lot. When the snow is falling, we’re perusing seed catalogs for our spring gardens. When it’s sweltering hot in the summer, we’re purchasing snow blowers. We buy flannel pajamas in spring and swimming suits in winter. Prepare, prepare, prepare. Control, control, control. Yicks!  Does anybody else think this is just a little bit crazy?

Oh don’t get me wrong, I still complain about crummy weather, wishing it were warmer or cooler. But I think that’s just in human DNA—after all, somewhere in our background our ancestors were farmers, Right?

What I’m talking about it letting go of trying to control everything in my grasp.  Been there. Done that. It doesn’t work.

Once you experience a hiccup in your “plans,” you’ll know what I mean. Get sick enough for a serious operation and have to recover for months. Lose a loved one suddenly and deal with devastating grief. Get fired from a job you loved. Have your dog get hit by a car. It doesn’t matter what the crisis is. When your life is thrown into a vortex you are unable to control, you’ll understand. And believe me, it will happen.

I’m not saying that plans aren’t good. I make plans with friends all the time. And it’s extremely important to have goals. I expect myself to fill up my bookshelves with published novels. What I’m saying these plans and goals shouldn’t define us. If you miss the mark with one goal, create another one. Sometime success is found in failure. (Have you ever read Abraham Lincoln’s life story?) Roll with it.

I want my legacy to be the good things I’ve done in my life. I want people to miss me when I’ve moved on into the universe. If I were going to have a headstone, it would simply read: She was a good friend.

So the next time you’re driving yourself into craziness with schedules, goals and other self-inflicted harm, try to step back and remember how you want to be remembered. I’ve found this simple step has freed me from self destructing in front of my own eyes.